Sunday, September 20, 2009

Thank you

Country Living.

Thank you all so much for wishing Marcel a happy 18th birthday.
We had a fun time and I will share some photos of the party another time.

The next morning we got some sad news, a call from my family saying we needed to come down.
My Dad is very poorly, has prostate cancer and was very low.
He was operated on about 7 months ago and the cancer seems to have spread to his bones.
It has been such a heartbreaking time to see him like this and has been a roller coaster of emotions.
The palliative care that he has been given, is just wonderful.
We have made many trips down to see him and each time he seems to be going downhill a little more. It is so hard to see my dear Father, who we all love so much, like this.
My Parents have been married for 56 years, and it is so hard for my Mother, who is very brave, but will miss him so much.

Take care, love & hug your family.
Carolyn xo


  1. I feel very sad for you and for your mother, and for all the family that will miss your father very very much. My deepest sympathy goes out to all of you, Carolyn.

  2. Oh I am so so sorry to hear this. I really do wish you all strength and courage at this time.

    Love and Hugs DJ

  3. Thank you so much Charity, that is very kind of you and the sympathy you have given to my family, means such a lot.

    Many thanks DJ.
    Having friends like you does give me the strength and courage that all my family are going to need at this time.
    Much appreciated.


  4. Oh Carolyn, I can understand your pain. It is so very hard to see your parent go through this knowing there are no miracles to bring them back. There is nothing anyone can say or do that will take this loss away but be strengthened by the knowledge that you have so many friends who are caring for you and your family. I hope your Dad does not suffer for too much longer. He certainly does not deserve it. Our whole family send everyone our thoughts and love.

  5. Dear Carolyn
    I feel very sad about your father.
    I wish you and your family
    power to carry on,
    you have my support for that.

    Take care
    Love and Hugs ^_^Piitis

  6. Thank you Karen, it sure helps to know that we have lovely friends like you. Our Father's were the best and it is one of the hardest things I have had to go through. I know you did with your Dad, Karen
    and how hard it must have been.

    Many thanks Piitis, your support has given us strength to help us through this very difficult time.

    Carolyn xo

  7. Carolyn,
    I am so sorry to hear your news. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with your family.
    Hugs and prayers, Lisa

  8. Oh Carolyn, I close my eyes for 3 days and I miss Marcel's birthday AND I totally feel your pain about your Father...I'm so sorry. I feel so bad. You've been helping me through my long hard days and I feel like I'm not there for you...I'm so sorry I didn't catch this post yesterday. I'm still praying for him (& your family too) and praying for peace to blanket us. Just know that you are in my thoughts daily, even though I'm not at the keyboard. You are sooooo special to me...big hugs!!!
    Please keep us posted~
    everything vintage

  9. Dear Carolyn,

    I am so very sorry. We will pray for your father, you and your family.

    Sending you a big ((HUG))


  10. It's a sad time right now for me, thinking of the loved ones I've lost. I hope and pray you will be comforted during this sad time and that your dad will be at peace. Take care.

  11. Carolyn, I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. A father and grandfather are such strenghts in a family. Bless you and your family at this time, that you will feel comfort from all of us who love you.

  12. ((((Carolyn)))), I'm very sad to hear about your Dad's condition. I wish you all strength to help deal with saddness in your lives. I went through this with my Dad in 1989. I'm sending prayers and hugs to all of you!!

  13. Carolyn,
    I am so sorry for you and your family to have this sad situation with your dad. I can only imagine how difficult it must be. Know that many people are thinking of you with kind and loving thoughts.
    Sharon :-)

  14. hi Carolyn.... all I can do is send hugs ... it is a hard thing for your Dad and the rest of the family to live through... ... I'm so happy there is great palliative care for him. What a great job those folks do....

  15. Dear Carolyn,

    You have my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. No matter how long we "have" our parents, it is never long enough. May the amazing power of faith and love wrap you and you dad in everlasting arms of hope,comfort and peace for this journey.


  16. Dear Carolyn,

    You have my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. No matter how long we "have" our parents, it is never long enough. May the amazing power of faith and love wrap you and your dad in everlasting arms of hope,comfort and peace for this journey.


  17. I am so sorry you are going through this. It is a hard time. I stayed with my sister till she passed away, it was very sad, I seldom talk about it cause it is very painful. I am reaching out to give you a huge hug!!!!!!
    Love and prayers,
    Margaret B

  18. Hi Carolyn,
    That is very sad news!!
    So sorry. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

  19. Dear Carolyn,
    My heart is very saddened for what you all are going through.
    I don't understand why so many men are strickened with this prostate cancer. It's terrible.

    So very sorry.
    d from Kansas

  20. Oh, dear Carolyn. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I will hold you all deep within my heart. I'm glad your father is receiving excellent care and is being made as comfortable as possible. And I'm grateful that you can all be together as a family. I wish you all strength and love.


  21. Oh Carolyn.... I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you and your family.


  22. Dearest Carolyn...I saw your post this morning and read it with tears in my eyes...but at the time, I just couldn't comment..I gave myself a few hours and came back just to say this...You know my heart truly goes out to you, your mama, your children, your whole family and especially you and your papa. I hope you get some wonderful moments to spend with him...cherish him..I think that even though it is so hard because each time you leave him, you don't know if it is the last time...You hope and pray for...something...maybe as bad as things are..we are lucky that we have the chance to spend time with them and let them know how much we love them..I know losin someone without warning is devastating...but as we both know..seeing them suffer going thru this and in pain is not so easy either..I am sending you whatever strength I have :) I am just happy knowing that your mama has such a wonderful daughter to be there and give her the love and support she needs..After what we went thru with my dad, as much as I did for my mom, I don't know who got more strength from it her or me...I didn't have to think about me, I was able to put everything I had left in being there for her. Love to you and your whole family...I am thinking about you, Rose

  23. Thank you Lisa, your thoughts and prayers for my family mean so much.

    Jodie, you are so sweet and such a special person, thank you for your kindness.
    Thinking and praying for your dear Dad too. It is so hard.
    I will keep you posted.

    Thanks very much Marsha, you are a dear and glad that I have got to know you.

    Hi Diane,

    Sending hugs to you and sorry for the loved ones you have lost.

    I feel so lucky to have such a beautiful friend like you June, and
    it gives a great comfort at this time. Thank you.

    Thank you Carol, it is very hard
    and I am sorry you lost your Dad in 1989.

    Thanks Sharon for the kind and loving thoughts, helps a lot.

    Hi Vee,

    Thanks so much and we are so thankful for the kind and caring nurses and Doctors who do such an incredibly hard and amazing job.
    They are so kind.

    Dear Jermaine,

    Nothing prepares you for the sadness, we are feeling at this time. thank you so much for your kind thoughts and prayers.

    Dear Margaret,

    So sorry to hear about your dear Sister and I know how so hard and painful it must have been for you.
    Sending hugs to you.

    thank you so much Rosemary.

    Dear Deanna,

    There do seem to be a lot of cases of Prostate cancer and it is really awful.

    thanks very much Bella, you are a dear sweet friend.
    I am so lucky to have such beautiful friends.

    thanks Rue,I appreciate your prayers and kindness.


  24. Dearest Rose,

    Having beautiful friends like you, has helped so much.
    Thank you.
    With the chance to say goodbye and being with him, as much as it is very hard, how much more difficult it would be if he had died suddenly.
    Many thanks for the strength and love you have given, as I think I am going to need all of this.

    Love & hugs to you dear Rose xo

  25. Dearest Carolyn, loving thoughts to you during this the saddest of times.
    Love Millie xx

  26. Dear Millie,

    Many thanks for your loving thoughts, much appreciated.


  27. Be sure to come by tonight around 9pm (Eastern time) for the announcement so you don't miss out. I promise-it good-really really good.
    Its So Very Cheri

  28. Hi Carolyn,

    I'm glad Marcel's birthday was fun and I am so very sorry to hear about your dad. It's so difficult to see a loved ones ill and my thoughts and prayers are with your father, you and your family.

    Big hugs sweetie!

  29. carolyn,
    You are such a sweet and caring person and to see you hurting like this just makes my heart break for you. I hope you get to spend as much time as you can with your father,,,but I know it is hard to see him this way.
    Know that my thoughts are with you!
    BIG HUGs,

  30. Thank you so much Karyn, so wonderful to have friends like you.


  31. thank you so much Carole, just off to make the 3 hour journey back down.
    Your kindness and thoughts are wonderful ~ helps me with needed strength.


  32. Carolyn~ All my best to you and your family during this time! I am sending good thoughts to your dad. You are such a thoughtful blogging friend! ~Mandy (Happy Birthday Marcel!)

  33. I'm so sorry to hear your Dad is feeling down and has taken a turn for the worse. There is just nobody of nothing that nasty little cancer demon won't touch. Hopefully one day we can find a cure. I'm just sorry it may not come in time to help your Dad.

  34. My goodness Carolyn, life is filled with ups and downs, things that truly bring us doing to reality- my dear my thoughts are with you as you go through this time. I hope you will get plenty of time with your Dad - hard and praying.

    x Suzi

  35. Carolyn,
    May your father be blessed with divine healing, strength and complete peace to him, your mother and your family.
    My thoughts are with you.

  36. So sad to hear about your papa, Carolyn. Will be thinking of him and saying prayers for peace, also for your family.

    Congrats on Marcel's 18th birthday!


  37. Hi Carolyn,

    I was just thinking about you and thought I'd pop back in and say hello! Just want you to know that my thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your dad.

    Big Hugs,

  38. Carolyn,

    My prayers go out to you and your father. God Bless!



  39. Thank you so much Mandy, you are a wonderful blogging friend.

    Thanks Sares and yes wouldn't it be great if there was a cure for the pernicious cancer.

    thank you very much Suzi, life is filled with its ups and downs but we need to get through them, thanks for thinking of my family.

    That is so sweet Toma, for your very kind words. Thanks so much.

    Many thanks Constance, it really helps to have wonderful friends here, helping me at this time.

    Karyn, how very kind of you to pop
    back, your thoughtfulness means so much to me.

    thank you Kim, for your prayers at this sad time, they are so helpful.



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Carolyn xx